Commentary from January 27, 2017
This post may be a little confusing. Most strips in depression comix tend to be able to stand on their own, but with this character’s thread, it follows a story and knowing what happened earlier may be necessary to figure out what’s going on. In this series, the female (who doesn’t have depression) finds herself in a relationship controlled by the suicidal urges of her boyfriend. When she decides she’s had enough and leaves, she is told that her boyfriend has died from suicide. The story then follows her through survivor’s guilt.
This story is a long time coming and I planned it out way back when I introduced these characters. I wish stories like this weren’t true, but it is often the case that when someone close to you dies by suicide, you have to deal with grief, sadness, loss, and trying to pick up the pieces, all the while navigating survivor’s guilt and the people in your life who need to point the finger at someone, in this case you. This is another part of the puzzle that is depression and I think a necessary angle to get the entire picture of how depression not only affects the sufferer but those around them.
Small Easter egg: Someone wrote “killer” on the character’s locker. The locker with “Killer” on it can be seen in the background of strip #308.
This story is a long time coming and I planned it out way back when I introduced these characters. I wish stories like this weren’t true, but it is often the case that when someone close to you dies by suicide, you have to deal with grief, sadness, loss, and trying to pick up the pieces, all the while navigating survivor’s guilt and the people in your life who need to point the finger at someone, in this case you. This is another part of the puzzle that is depression and I think a necessary angle to get the entire picture of how depression not only affects the sufferer but those around them.
Small Easter egg: Someone wrote “killer” on the character’s locker. The locker with “Killer” on it can be seen in the background of strip #308.
This is part of a continuing thread, to read more of it please go here: http://www.depressioncomix.com/posts/characters/satellite-character-13/
Thanks, I forgot about this storyline.
Yeah, me too. I didn’t get the comic at all at first. Now I got it.
I was the woman in this story line and along with battling my own demons, I tried to battle his.
When I couldn’t take the emotional abuse anymore I left, and he told me that he was going to kill himself… For six years afterwards on our “anniversary” he’d call me and tell me how he wanted to kill himself, every year I’d send the police of of his place, every year I’d take the abuse hurled back at me – what a cunt I was, how dare I violent his trust, blah blah blah – after the cops left his place.
Then three years ago he didn’t call me, he didn’t text me and hasn’t since. Sometimes I wonder if he’s ok, if he finally went through it…
Good job girl love you. Takes guts to tell your story
Mentel illness is not intentional way abuse it a physical biological problem that transcendences all educational backgrounds no matter the patient was thought to believe.!
Damn…
A painful, but necessary storyline. Some of us need regular reminders of the effect our actions have on those left behind. The more painful the reminder the more likely it is to help.
Or hurt and discourage seeking help or developing relationships, both romantic and platonic.
How does a person who is battling suicidality manage their relationships so this isn’t the most likely scenario? We are overwhelmed by our own pain and need it to end, but we usually don’t want to generate this kind of doubt in the lives of those who we cared about.
Dealing with people’s death is horrible. The blow cannot be softened. It is what it is.
It’s such a difficult thing to be in a position like this character’s. After a while, you have to do what’s best for you and take care of yourself first, otherwise you aren’t in a position where you can help the other person either. Not to mention that depression can make the sufferer exhibit abusive (psychological ore physical) behaviour in some cases, so it can be beat for both parties if you leave that situation until the other person can get their brain under control.
But of course, if you don’t stay and be their life raft, and they drown, naturally you’ll be the one blamed, by the depressed person, by everyone else not privy to the details of the relationship, by your own brain… so super sucky. ???
Basically you’re damned either way. For many in these types of relationships, it’s a no win situation, sadly.
https://youtu.be/2SszI97PGQ0
Whats funny is someone close to me committed suicide, and I’m worried because I don’t care. Like, I just see it as a choice she made. I feel I SHOULD care. Or feel something.
they say “socialize” i hear “SUICIDE”