Maybe what was needed here was an understanding between them about why? The rejection without a reason is hurtful and gives the impression that you can never ask them.
I’m not obliged to explain my reasons to you so that you can judge them not compelling enough and guilt me into complying (which is, ime, what people need them for most often). My personal struggles are none of your business. Unless you want to project something into it, “I can’t deal with you now” means “I *can’t* (don’t have the resources to) deal with you *now* (at this moment)”. Any further information is completely voluntary. The only hurtful thing about not giving it is that it doesn’t give the control over myself to you, which you shouldn’t have felt entitled to in the first place.
I love that analysis. So often we feel pressured into revealing info and thought processes, and that just gets us deeper into a situation we wanted to be able to keep to ourselves. Keeping it short without making it brusque or hurtful is the hard balance we need to try and maintain.
I always feel this way with my friend. And what makes it worse is when he made it all about himself and what he’s going through, and doesn’t really take any problems of mine seriously. I don’t want to block him or others out, because it just makes me feel so guilty. And I know I’m losing more friends this way and family by not talking about my problems. But sometimes I feel like cutting them out of my life creates less drama, so I can focus on my problem of depression first.
I would like to see a comic from the other girl’s point of view, I mean, until now she looks like the typical attention seeking self diagnosed punk that is actually right. I don’t know, if she turns out to be alike me, I know she’s hiding something under that appearance
Such a tough situation.
It’s sad, but you have to take care of yourself before you can take of others. 🙁
Yet sometimes hearing someone else’s story can lessen the mental tailspin that occurs
Sometimes, it makes it worse.
for this reason, I’m always eager to talk to other people about their issues when I’m having a terrible day – perspective is huge!
Melly Howarth this is so true
Marshall, I’m such a big offender of it sometimes! Never mean to but totally do a duck and run when my own brain is messing with me. :/
Seeing as how she treated her in the past (ie: 147 and 227), you can’t exactly blame her for not wanting to deal with her.
“233” #webcomic #feedly so true, with so much in common it is hard for the depressed to communicate http://t.co/OuMz5uMf48
Yea… I’m either/both of these, alternatingly…
Maybe what was needed here was an understanding between them about why? The rejection without a reason is hurtful and gives the impression that you can never ask them.
I’m not obliged to explain my reasons to you so that you can judge them not compelling enough and guilt me into complying (which is, ime, what people need them for most often). My personal struggles are none of your business. Unless you want to project something into it, “I can’t deal with you now” means “I *can’t* (don’t have the resources to) deal with you *now* (at this moment)”. Any further information is completely voluntary. The only hurtful thing about not giving it is that it doesn’t give the control over myself to you, which you shouldn’t have felt entitled to in the first place.
I love that analysis. So often we feel pressured into revealing info and thought processes, and that just gets us deeper into a situation we wanted to be able to keep to ourselves. Keeping it short without making it brusque or hurtful is the hard balance we need to try and maintain.
When I’m down that far, the best I can do is, “If you talk to me right now the words won’t reach my brain, sorry. Call me tomorrow?”
sakura and hinata?
I always feel this way with my friend. And what makes it worse is when he made it all about himself and what he’s going through, and doesn’t really take any problems of mine seriously. I don’t want to block him or others out, because it just makes me feel so guilty. And I know I’m losing more friends this way and family by not talking about my problems. But sometimes I feel like cutting them out of my life creates less drama, so I can focus on my problem of depression first.
I would like to see a comic from the other girl’s point of view, I mean, until now she looks like the typical attention seeking self diagnosed punk that is actually right. I don’t know, if she turns out to be alike me, I know she’s hiding something under that appearance
Hi, Goth Chick (that’s her name, she’s from a comic I did in 2001) will be in more strips and ones that are more sympathetic to her point of view.
Umm.. I don’t mean to be the mistake pointer outer, but your comic says copyright 2004.
This is not the first series he’s done though
🙁
story of my life!