Unfortunately there’s a dark side to this. I realized that if I took my life, the people I fantasized would be sad actually wouldn’t notice (or even worse, mock me). However it would be devastating to the people who had loved me all along & somehow didn’t make it in that fantasy. Now I force myself to visualize the faces of the people who would be devastated (even though I still believe I am a burden to them). It helps me not act on the temptation even when it’s really strong.
I have two kids. I have tattooed their names on my wrists to remind me every time I despair that I love them and they are my life. I also know that I’ll traumatize them for the rest of their lives if I succumb to the urge.
That doesn’t make it less of a burden to live in pain for almost forty years now, condemned to live because I can’t die by my hands without hurting the people I love. The guilt is so crushing. Damned if I do, damned if I don’t.
They say suicide is the most selfish thing you can do. I agree to a point. They also say it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I don’t agree with that.
Can it also not be said that is selfish that someone who is depressed and not enjoying life being kept alive against their will for the benefit of family members who may or may not give a damn about them in the first place?
And how do those same folks know that someone’s issues are only temporary? What if the person who is suffering feels like they have no other options, since no one else will listen or give them the time of day?
It’s not ne essarily their fault though. This comic does a great job of showing what depression is like for both sides. People could have told him they loved him every day. But if you suffer from depression believing is really hard, forgetting is very easy, and distancing yourself from people so you don’t see or hear them anymore is easiest of all…
This right here has pretty much gotten me through the darkest times – I’ve lost acquaintances, colleagues, friends and family to suicide over the years and they were usually the best people, not the worst. Their absence left holes in the invisible web of connections that supports everyone and diminished the faith that we can collectively improve the world.
It doesn’t matter how bad I feel, I know for a certainty that if I kill myself, it’s going to lessen the emotional means available for everyone else to get through their days. At the same time, I understand the “why” of what they did and how hard it can be to maintain any sense of that connectedness.
Pretty much. No one knows what they have until Its gone.
Unfortunately there’s a dark side to this. I realized that if I took my life, the people I fantasized would be sad actually wouldn’t notice (or even worse, mock me). However it would be devastating to the people who had loved me all along & somehow didn’t make it in that fantasy. Now I force myself to visualize the faces of the people who would be devastated (even though I still believe I am a burden to them). It helps me not act on the temptation even when it’s really strong.
Exactly the same for me…some nights, that’s the only thing that stops me.
100% the same for me as for jakewobegon… if it wasn’t for my parents and a few close friends…
Some nights, that’s the only thing that really stops me.
I have two kids. I have tattooed their names on my wrists to remind me every time I despair that I love them and they are my life. I also know that I’ll traumatize them for the rest of their lives if I succumb to the urge.
That doesn’t make it less of a burden to live in pain for almost forty years now, condemned to live because I can’t die by my hands without hurting the people I love. The guilt is so crushing. Damned if I do, damned if I don’t.
Talented comic
People just need to party then we’ll be all good.
Don’t wait until it’s too late to tell a friend what they mean to you…tell them right now.
100% the same for me as for jakewobegon… if it wasn’t for my parents and a few close friends…
Some nights, that’s the only thing that really stops me.
They say suicide is the most selfish thing you can do. I agree to a point. They also say it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. I don’t agree with that.
Can it also not be said that is selfish that someone who is depressed and not enjoying life being kept alive against their will for the benefit of family members who may or may not give a damn about them in the first place?
And how do those same folks know that someone’s issues are only temporary? What if the person who is suffering feels like they have no other options, since no one else will listen or give them the time of day?
This is a great strip here.
It’s not ne essarily their fault though. This comic does a great job of showing what depression is like for both sides. People could have told him they loved him every day. But if you suffer from depression believing is really hard, forgetting is very easy, and distancing yourself from people so you don’t see or hear them anymore is easiest of all…
This right here has pretty much gotten me through the darkest times – I’ve lost acquaintances, colleagues, friends and family to suicide over the years and they were usually the best people, not the worst. Their absence left holes in the invisible web of connections that supports everyone and diminished the faith that we can collectively improve the world.
It doesn’t matter how bad I feel, I know for a certainty that if I kill myself, it’s going to lessen the emotional means available for everyone else to get through their days. At the same time, I understand the “why” of what they did and how hard it can be to maintain any sense of that connectedness.
honestly ………….. it’s more like “things YOU WISH others would say after you die” !